It is difficult to talk about sex without talking about relationships.  Tanya views this as both the foreplay for sex therapy and also a worthwhile exercise on its own. Sometimes couples get stuck and don’t know how to fix a problem.  Sometimes they have developed destructive communication styles.  Just a few sessions with Tanya can really help people communicate more effectively.  Tanya works with all relationship presentations including: single, dating, married, non-monogamous, BDSM and more.

Relationship issues that Tanya works with:

• Communication

• Assertiveness

• Sexual issues

• Compromise and Negotiation

• Family dynamics

• See also Sex Therapy and Counselling

Clients come to Tanya for many different reasons and often the presenting issue is a symptom of greater things at play.

People often feel embarrassed, concerned or nervous about seeking assistance and this can sometimes get in the way of them getting the support they really need. If this sounds familiar, it may help you to know the following:

• Not understanding that sexual desire can work differently according to people’s different genital configurations often contributes to mis-matched desire levels. Sex therapy can help individuals and couples explore problems and differences to develop working solutions to achieve a happy and balanced sex life and improved intimacy.

• Desire issues for many people are often caused by experiencing pain or discomfort.  When people come for sex therapy they can experience immediate improvements when they learn about the physiology of pleasure.

• Research shows that up to 25-35% of people with vulvas are unable to achieve an orgasm.  Talking to a sex therapist can help uncover and overcome mental and physical blocks to orgasm.

• Gender, sexual identity and relationship formats can change over a person’s lifetime. Community attitudes and acceptance also change. People sometimes need a safe space to navigate their experiences without shame and stigma.

• Experiencing erectile dysfunction (ED) is a part of getting older, up to 40% of people in their 40s experience ED and this figure rises to as high as 70% of people in their 70s.  If you experience it once or twice, it does not mean it will happen every time!

• Premature ejaculation has a number of different origins and will be treated differently according to the person’s background. 

• SSRI Anti-depressants can affect sexual desire and stimulation. Some studies have shown that as many as 71% of folks taking these medications experience a loss of desire and sexual stimulation.

• Sexual addictions/compulsions affect approximately 10% of the population. This figure is increasing with the ease of availability of sexually explicit material on the Internet.

• Often people find it difficult to talk to each other about sex and this is where sex therapy can help. Tanya provides a safe, non-judgmental place to explore sexual problems or concerns.

Areas of Specialisation

Sometimes people need a helping hand to get them through difficult stages in their sexual relationship - there is nothing wrong with this. It is much better to get the problems sorted out than let them go unattended. Tanya can support you with:

• Desire discrepancy (mis-matched libido)

• Low sexual desire (loss of libido)

• Premature ejaculation

• Delayed ejaculation (inability to ejaculate)

• Impotence/erectile dysfunction (difficulty in gaining or maintaining an erection)

• Performance anxiety

• Difficulty with orgasms

• Painful intercourse (Vaginismus)

• Vulva pain (Dyspareunia)

• Differences in sexual arousal

• Gender identity & sexuality

• Sexual orientation

• Sex work

• HIV/AIDs emotional support

• Intimacy

• Sexual abuse and its impacts

• Sexual compulsions / porn addiction

• Relationship difficulties

• Coaching and advice on polyamory and open relationships

• Sexuality and ageing

• Exploration of sexual expression such as BDSM / kink, swinging, cross dressing, fetishes, and other preferences.